The reflection I’m about to share with you today mainly concerns all the players out there. It can also be used as crucial lesson for the beginners.
Once you have mastered the basic tools, techniques and methods of seduction, with a little patience and perseverance, you’ll begin to reap the rewards of your hard work: you will meet and sleep with many, many women.
And nothing can stop you.
You’re enjoying life, you hook up; one after the other, one night stands and mini-love stories; you are blissfully happy. The other guys are jealous of you and the girls want you.
Life is beautiful.
But how long this ‘paradise’ will last?
How long can you keep this pace up, changing girls like you are changing your underwear?
The answer is: it depends.
Experience has taught me something important: you will be bored to tears, sooner or later.
Let me tell you something, my friend…
The thinking that I will share with you is not often discussed. But I’ll do it anyway, after all, it’s my job to do so.
As I was saying, by stringing together one-night stands, you’ll feel like the King of the World. You’ll feel like a god. But at the same time, some unforeseen consequences will come to light.
And this is where the dark side of seduction sets in.
You will no longer look at women in the same way
The better you become in picking them up, the more you will instinctively downgrade women. The more you take women off their pedestal the more you will think you are the trophy, and will put on your Devil’s suite. In sum, you’ll begin to behave like a real bastard.
And you won’t even realize it. Unfortunately.
Women love Bad Boys, everyone knows this, and you will begin to revel in this.
The more quickly you seduce each successive woman, the faster the next one will land in your bed. As a result, you put all women in one basket. You consider all of them whores and disrespect them more.
Still, completely, unconsciously.
You will believe you are THE seducer of the decade, THE world’s perfect gentleman when in reality you are disrespectful and a dishonest man.
Say goodbye to empathy with women
In my communication courses, I learned that empathy is an essential key to creating deep and genuine connections with people. To empathize is to take the place of others to understand their feelings and emotions.
Unfortunately, the better you are at ”hunting” women, the more your sense of empathy dies. Slowly but surely.
Because they teach you in those famous seduction courses to send a girl to hell if she tells you about her problems, you no longer will tolerate people (especially women) who share their daily concerns with you and this even if you could help them. Basically, you do not give a shit. You couldn’t be bothered if she broke her arm or if her mother has cancer.
The act of making love no longer means anything to you
Whenever you sleep with a girl, while making love, you think about the next one. You do not care if she reaches an orgasm or not. As long as you’ve had yours!
You can no longer stand looking her in the face, and you have just one desire: that she leaves as soon as possible so you can nail the next one.
Lovemaking is therefore reduced to a physical activity that is of small or negligible pleasure for you only. You appreciate more the ‘Game’ and the steps of the seduction procedure (overcoming obstacles, resistance, isolate her, seduce her friends, etc…) than the last step. And as soon as you’ve had your fun its all about: “on to the next one”!
You become the infamous Rebound Guy
Because you break the hearts and souls, girls who went to bed with you, sooner or later, recover from their misadventures with you and fly away. Far away.
Natalie with whom you slept six months ago, and who confessed her feelings for you -in vain – met a fantastic man. Soon she’ll be married. She is in love, happy and fulfilled. While you are still dodging in and out of night clubs and bars in search of tonight’s .
Every woman you meet, whom you break, once released from you and your thoughts, will approach romance with a new skepticism: the next man she meets will be The One for her. She learned her lesson, and thanks you from the bottom of her heart.
Becoming a couple means nothing to you
Because you are convinced that you are very good with women – a reality because you have worked so hard at it – even if you meet a girl who you genuinely like and stirs some feelings in your heart (which has turned into a waste factory), you will dump her after a month. You are bored to death and want a new, fresh, sexier piece of meat.
At the slightest misstep on her part, you say “Next”. You no longer have patience. You no longer tolerate her bullshit and you feel like you’re wasting your time with her. Time spent with her equates in your mind to time that could be spent seducing another woman.
The idea to be in a relationship, let alone to married and start a family, means nothing to you. You love life and you are absolutely not ready to give up the Casanova lifestyle.
But between you and I, when you go home at night you sink into an ocean of loneliness and melancholy.
How do I know?
Try to guess.
~Kamal.
Lear more about him here.
